When Austin and I first met, we were both going through a lot in our lives. You know how people say that you will find the person you’re meant to spend your life with when you least expect it? Well, that’s exactly what happened for us.
In early 2016, I was still finding myself again after a traumatic event happened in my life. Austin was in the VA program for recovering addicts, and had been sober for 15 months.
One night, I went to stay with my best friend. Despite my refusal, he recommended I make a profile on POF (Plenty of Fish) because “compliments always make us feel better.” He felt that having strangers tell me nice things and carry on a conversation would bring me out of my “funk.”
Trust me, I know now that it sounds dumb, but it was the best thing to ever happen to me.
Austin will tell you otherwise, but I came across his profile first. He was the one and only person that I had favorited that night before I fell asleep.
When I woke up the next morning for work, I’d found that he favorited me back, and sent me a message. In such a short time, we learned so much about one another, and realized we had a lot in common.
His birthday is June 10th, and my birthday is June 13th. His son was born December 18th, and my son was born December 19th.
Within a month, we were dating. Unlike any relationship I’d ever been in before, Austin was patient and beyond understanding. We talked about everything, and he always reassured me that my feelings were valid. No matter how much time it took, he was determined to tear down my walls and earn my trust. It meant the world to me.
We’ve had our fair share of up’s and down’s, to say the least, but we’ve always had each other. He is truly my best friend; always supporting, encouraging, loving, defending, wanting, respecting, and appreciating me. As someone that has never had a healthy relationship before, the smallest gestures always made me emotional and feel so important.
For the first time in my life, I’d finally felt as though I truly mattered to someone. Honestly, it took quite some time to adjust to that realization due to being told things like how “no one would ever be able to love and accept me with all of my issues,” or “any man that ever found me attractive would only stick around for one thing, and then leave me, too.”
Austin was different from the very beginning, and I knew that I’d fall in love with him no matter how hard I tried to fight it. There’s always been something about him that has made my heart skip a beat.
When he comes home from work, when his name pops up on my phone, when he calls me “babe,” or just simply looking at him — I instantly feel like a school girl with a crush. I’ve never experienced a mutually respectful and loving relationship before, so I pushed him away quite a bit in the beginning, but I’m beyond grateful that he stuck through it all with me.
I know that I am going to marry this man one day, and we are going to have a beautiful family together. We’re currently looking to buy our first home, and I’m beyond excited to see what the future has in store for us.
Austin, I know you’re reading this, and I want you to know that you are one of the best things to ever happen to me. We’ve both put each other through some dark times, but we came back stronger and happier. I’ve never loved someone the way that I love you, and I know that we are going to spend many, many more happy years together. I cannot fathom the love and emotions that will come when I carry your last name, and carry your beautiful child(ren). Aiden and I love you beyond measure, and are more than lucky to be your family. Thank you for all that you do for us, and for loving me like no one ever has before.
This post was a little vague, I know, but trust me when I say there will be so much more to say about my beautiful little family, and my life with my best friend. Stay tuned for that, and more of the blog challenge.
Day 5 coming soon.